Orthodox Jewish approach to homosexuality: Hate the sin, love the sinner
With the release of a declaration on homosexuality and the inherent dignity of gay men and lesbians, by more than 100 Orthodox rabbis, educators and mental health professionals in the United States and Israel, a segment of the Orthodox community is now in full agreement with the Roman Catholic Church. The statement, without using the exact phrasing of the Church, supports hating the sin while loving the sinner. I am filled with both dread and hope by this recent development.
The declaration fills me with hope because it publicly states what most of the signers have privately believed for some time. By collectively stepping into the light and staking a claim for what is experienced as a fairly radical approach by most people in the Orthodox community, the men and women who signed this "statement of principles on the place of homosexuals in the Orthodox community" have responded with tremendous courage.
They have also responded with incredible integrity. The statement is bounded by en entirely normative i.e. Orthodox understanding of homosexuality and the limitations imposed on any gay person who actually expresses their sexuality in any way.
While that will be entirely dissatisfying to many people, and leaves me with many questions about my own willingness to add my name to the list of signers, it demonstrates the capacity of people who see few alternatives to push themselves to respond with love to a situation they abhor. That is spiritual heroism.
So why the dread? Because at the end of the day I remain deeply uncomfortable with the limitations of the statement, the limitations of my own current thinking about the issue and the fact that historically, the position of hating the sin but loving the sinner has worked out about as well as the principle of separate but equal.
The dread is a result of being altogether uncertain who the statement is really for. Will it genuinely benefit gay people in the Orthodox community, or will it just make a bunch of straight Orthodox Jews, including myself, feel better about our current understanding of Jewish law and its implications for thousands of other Jews? Not for one second do I believe that was the authors' intent, but I fear that it may be the result.
I need to hear what gay Orthodox Jews think about this statement of principles. Does it represent a real step forward which is likely to improve their lives? Do they experience it as a positive evolutionary step toward a fuller acceptance? Could it be that this statement, like all expressions of covenantal love, need not be all that I/they would hope for in order to deserve support and even celebration?
When these issues are addressed, we will all know better if this is Orthodoxy catching up with Catholicism or something more - something of which we will not only be proud in the present, but also in the future.
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Brad Hirschfield
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August 3, 2010; 3:20 PM ET
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Posted by: shadow_man | August 12, 2010 2:47 AM
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Homosexuality is not a choice. Just like you don't choose the color of your skin, you cannot choose whom you are sexually attracted to. If you can, sorry, but you are not heterosexual, you are bi-sexual. Virtually all major psychological and medical experts agree that sexual orientation is NOT a choice. Most gay people will tell you its not a choice. Common sense will tell you its not a choice. While science is relatively new to studying homosexuality, studies tend to indicate that its biological.
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Posted by: shadow_man | August 12, 2010 2:45 AM
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Homosexuality is not a sin according to the Bible. Scholars who have studied the Bible in context of the times and in relation to other passages have shown those passages (Leviticus, Corinthians, Romans, etc) have nothing to do with homosexuality. These passages often cherry-picked while ignoring the rest of the Bible. The sins theses passages are referring to are idolatry, prostitution, and rape, not homosexuality.
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Posted by: shadow_man | August 12, 2010 2:42 AM
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Homosexuality is not a sin according to the Bible. Scholars who have studied the Bible in context of the times and in relation to other passages have shown those passages (Leviticus, Corinthians, Romans, etc) have nothing to do with homosexuality. These passages often cherry-picked while ignoring the rest of the Bible. The sins theses passages are referring to are idolatry, prostitution, and rape, not homosexuality.
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Posted by: shadow_man | August 12, 2010 2:40 AM
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he says the love of many will wax cold because sin iniquity will abound. I have pulled those words apart and I have only come to one conclusion that is every time we start fighting with flesh then the appropiate response to any moral dilemma is lost and we have no unity and we have no compass to lead us to gods mercy seat his mercy seat he gave us laws to live by because he loved us those who live outside the relm of that faith that land we profess to have some vision of as believers in christ are the ones he died for the ones he believed were worth his suffering the ones his father believed were worth watching a beloved son suffer for he does not judge and we oft times do with what we think is righteous indignation he doesnt need us to maintain his laws he needs us to represent and express are understanding of his light in such a way that it draws souls in. thats what he did for us when we came to him when we experienced him we cannot stop this iniquity from abounding our job is to keep our hearts beating for him by beating with his if he grieves for every lost soul every lost soul who then is exempt think not that in saying these words im so close to this precept Oh my how I fall short but to endure is to keep trying and to keep trying is to stay as close to him daily as is possible and never give up comming to terms with the real war being waged the one that gets us home with our arms full of the only gift he wants from us so my prayer is for peaceful resolutions and understanding each others pain better thats a start now isnt it
Posted by: robertajkaufman3 | August 8, 2010 10:20 PM
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PS If Orthodox Jews have to work hard to "catch up" to the Roman Catholic hierarchy, then they are in big trouble.
Posted by: JayJonson | August 8, 2010 3:23 PM
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Unbelievable that in 2010 any "respectable" religion believes that homosexuality is a sin. If you don't like homosexuality, don't practice it.
Posted by: JayJonson | August 8, 2010 3:21 PM
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'Hate' doesn't distinguish between 'sins' and 'sinners.'
The bashing hardly waits to ask whether or not you've had *sex* or anything, does it?
Not that waving a book gives you the right to pry, either.
Posted by: APaganplace | August 8, 2010 10:07 AM
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Near as I can tell from the link provided by the rabbi, the statement consists basically of "It's okay to be gay and Jewish, as long as you are also celibate." How generous.
Posted by: lepidopteryx | August 8, 2010 9:54 AM
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Farnaz, you wrote the following:
"Catholic and Protestant LGBTs, Hindu and Muslim LGBTs are likewise pained by the disgusting intolerance shown by many clerics in their communities".
My view on all these neanderthals, is to ignore their views. These people base their judgments from musty tomes written by bronze age ignoramuses. All I say of these as with those 100 men, don't give a heed to them. Count your blessings that they have exposed themselves of their intolerance. It causes pain only when one is seeking their approval.
"Some Hindu priests, a handful, have performed same-sex marriages. Hideously, "homosexuality" was first legalized in India in 2009".
Agreed, but at least now they have full legal equality, thanks to Delhi High Court.
As for your comments about me being ignorant of Jewish Scripture or any other scripture, it matters little. They are all should be banished to the dust heap of history as we have banished all those books on alchemistry. I have no use for them as all they do is promote delusions amongst the people and allow the clerics to usurp power over others.
Posted by: Secular | August 8, 2010 8:15 AM
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Continued
"'My dear one, my friend, you have twice the power of love. Use it carefully.'
I was stunned. I sat in silence for a moment, waiting for more.
'Is that all?' I asked.
He smiled and said, 'That is all. There is nothing more to say.'"
From "Wrestling with God and Men"
There are other Orthodox rabbis who support same-sex marriage rights, gay and straight. God be with them.
Posted by: farnaz_mansouri2 | August 8, 2010 5:24 AM
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Secular (Tanakh, "OT" Authority),
Btw., both the Conservative and Reformed rabbinates have been performing same-sex marriages for years.
If you would care to correct them on the errors of their ways, using your authority with the Tanakh, let me know, and I'll post the addresses to which you may mail the sum of your acquired Tanakh expertise.
Posted by: farnaz_mansouri2 | August 8, 2010 3:30 AM
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Secular,
As I have told you before, you are clueless on Tanakh. Your posting merely confirms this. What I said of Tanakh is factual. See any Oxford Study Bible on this.
As for NT, that is more problematic in its proscriptions of homosexuality. Christian heterophobes are aware of this, and more and more they are using the NT, alone, to justify their homophobia.
As for the LGBT community, they care greatly what the 100 say, as they do about what the Orthodox and Haredi feel. Their views, though not quite so despicable, in the main, as those of other religions have caused enormous pain for Jewish LGBTs about whom, like Judaism, you know nothing, evidently.
Catholic and Protestant LGBTs, Hindu and Muslim LGBTs are likewise pained by the disgusting intolerance shown by many clerics in their communities.
Some Hindu priests, a handful, have performed same-sex marriages. Hideously, "homosexuality" was first legalized in India in 2009.
Btw., there is no "OT" in Judaism. Try, at least, to get the terminology correct. And note, English versions of Tanakh are translated directly from the Hebrew and Aramaic.
Christian versions are mistranslated from the Greek mistranslation.
Posted by: farnaz_mansouri2 | August 8, 2010 2:58 AM
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Farnaz, response to your comments are below:
My statement that matters little the opinion of these 100 men about homosexuality to the GLBT, was made advisedly. I feel that whether these people disapprove should not matter to GLBT folks. I am not too concerned about the talmud or tanakh, because these are admittedly human creations. I only look at the OT for judaic prescriptions. This is supposedly the revelation from the hebrew skydaddy. Needless to say that I consider OT also a human creation. I am going by the adherent claims to show that it is flawed. With that prologue, there are enough passages in OT that unambiguously condemn homosexuality. These books were actually written by ignorant people with zero understanding of biology or any other sciences by today's standards. Those passages reflect that. It is unfortunate that there are folks who feel compelled to adhere to the pronouncements of those ignoramuses. So why should anyone care about the opinions of retrogrades, who despite the benefit of modern knowledge still lead deluded lives. ANd make srupid and inane pronouncements.
Posted by: Secular | August 7, 2010 11:24 PM
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Furthermore, why should the GLBT community even care about these inane statements. It does not make whit of a difference to them.
Posted by: Secular
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The GLBT community cares a great deal, and it is perfectly understandable that they would.
Neither the Catholic Church nor the Orthodox community are correct. They are WRONG, WRONG, WRONG.
Statements like this are harmful, and morally WRONG. Further their is NOTHING in Tanakh that condemns gay sex. Nothing. It does not even mention sex between women. What Tanakh opposes is the rape of one man
(usually older, stronger, powerful) of another, which was all the rage in the region for conquering armies during periods of war. Rape of men and women in combat continues today. That is what Tanakh wanted to end.
It could not comment on "homosexuality" per se because the construct of gayness did not enter culture until the nineteenth century CE.
Regarding this statement of 100 Orthodox rabbis, it is not really a mark of progress. There position has been that gayness is not "wrong" per se, but unacceptable in practice because in their misreading it is procscribed.
They have not "caught up" to the Catholic church with this statement. They have not caught up to anything.
Until the ORthodox "catch up" to the Conservative and Reformed Jewish communities on the matter of gayness and women, they will lag behind. They are reverting to a misguided literalism that, frankly, is nonJudaic.
Posted by: farnaz_mansouri2 | August 7, 2010 3:40 PM
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Furthermore, why should the GLBT community even care about these inane statements. It does not make whit of a difference to them.
Posted by: Secular | August 7, 2010 3:14 PM
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Mr. Hirschfields comments like that of any theists statements about morality are little more than self congratulatory inanities at best or at worst completely devoid of humanity and vile. He writes "supports hating the sin while loving the sinner". What does this stupid statement mean that they hate thievery but love the thief or they hate the lie but love the liar or better still they hate the murder but love the murderer? Can they not come out and say they hate homosexuality but not the homosexual? Why hide behind the generalization, when they don't mean it? This because then they have to confront with the question why hate Homosexuality? Is it because of gibberish written in some 3000 year tome? If so that book also recommends that they should hate the homosexual too. Why only obey half of the recommendation. It behooves them to step up and think for themselves on these issues. The first and foremost thing here is to ask if this is even a moral issue in the first place to pass a moral judgment? Is it morally wrong to like color blue over others? The question of homosexuality is similar to that. Since there are no admonishments against choice of color in those putrid tomes, we don't think about them. We don't think of wearing the heterogeneous fabrics in moral terms,even though the tomes proscribe them. Likewise it would be best to leave the homosexuality in the dustbin of history.
I do agree with the sentiment that "the position of hating the sin but loving the sinner has worked out about as well as the principle of separate but equal". It is meant to make the person feel good. When they have really come to the conclusion that question of sexual choice is not a moral question, but are unable to let go of their umbilical the TOMES.
Posted by: Secular | August 7, 2010 3:10 PM
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WRONG, Wrong, wrong ! You cannot make a right out of a wrong. Homosexuality IS NOT A SIN. It is natural. A natural variation in the human species. This popycock about loving the sinner ...hating the sin is insulting to any gay man or woman, Jew, Catholic or whatever! I don't understand why any homosexual would still identify or want to be a member of any religion or church. Religion is backwards. It is the bane of our existence and happiness. All homosexuals should convert to Humanism.
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Posted by: ommmm-aummm-ameen-2010 | August 6, 2010 2:40 PM
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hate the bigotry, love the bigot?
Posted by: areyousaying | August 6, 2010 11:59 AM
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Many Orthodox and many Haredi do not "abhor" gayness. They see it as proscribed; that is there only reason for not viewing it as acceptably different. They do not "hate it," do not use such language.
Is there position, nevertheless, acceptable?
Not in my view.
Posted by: farnaz_mansouri2 | August 5, 2010 11:50 AM
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