Faith and Healing

Forgiveness: The Power to Heal

The foundational prayer of Christianity is The Lord's Prayer, otherwise known as the "Our Father." Its grandeur is expressed best in its simplicity. One of the requests that is asked of God in that prayer is this, "Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us." Both the Jewish Bible and the New Testament are permeated with the seeking and granting of forgiveness. Recently someone asked me, "What is the church all about?" I began my response by saying that the church is in the "forgiveness business."

Forgiveness, indeed, is basic to what Christianity is supposed to be about. A Christian is supposed to believe that, "Christ Jesus came in the world to save sinners." Sunday liturgies in many Christian denominations always include a confession and absolution whereby the gathered confess their sins and are offered forgiveness. That relief from the burden of our own faults, however, is meant to be shared by forgiving others. It's that simple and that difficult.

It turns out that the forgiveness business is mighty tough business. Our society more often seeks to assign blame than to tame anger by offering forgiveness. Grudges and holding on to them are embedded in the fabric of contemporary existence. In the arenas of partisanship, geopolitics, houses of worship, schools, and play groups it appears that letting go is getting harder to do.

There are prices to pay for not being able to forgive the grievances we have against others. Examine the laundry list of the human organism's response to holding onto anger and withholding forgiveness: anxiety, stress, decreased immune-system function, substance abuse, hypertension, depression, chronic pain, and increased heart rate. Each of those in turn impose immense physical and emotional trauma on individuals, communities, and society. Studies have demonstrated that people who are unable to forgive experience, not surprisingly, higher rates of divorce as well as other difficulties in developing and maintaining other healthy inter-personal relationships.

Another price that is paid in failing to be able to forgive others is that we in turn become unable to forgive ourselves. Having spent countless hours counseling people in various stages of their lives and relationships, I have come to realize that this is one of the core issues that plagues so many people.

Many of us have some routines in our lives: jobs, gym, reading, running, television, or computer time. We develop agility, knowledge, and expertise from many of these routine activities. Learning how to forgive others, if it became more routine, would greatly assist us in being able to forgive ourselves. Likewise, the more one develops the skill to forgive ourselves, forgiving others will become easier. The one feeds the other and so on. The healing effects of forgiveness can be profound and far-reaching. Alexander Pope wrote, "Teach me to feel another's woe, to hide the fault I see; That mercy I to others show, that mercy show to me." If, as people of faith, our faith can teach us one thing that could enhance our health and well-being as well as that of others and our culture in general it is this: Faith is in large part the forgiveness business.

By Albert Scariato  |  June 16, 2009; 4:00 PM ET  | Category:  Faith and Healing
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WHAT IS SIN? WHAT RIGHT DOES MAN HAVE TO MAKE A RULE THAT IF VIOLATED IS SIN? BAPTISM IS FOR THE FORGIVENESS OF SIN. HOW MANY ARE BAPTIZE BY THEIR OWN FREE WILL? DOES RELIGION USE GULIT AS A MEANS TO CONTROL THE MEMBERSHIP? THE HISTORY OF CONFESSTION IS OF GREAT INTEREST BACK IN THE 1300s. CHRIST WROTE THE RULES ONLY IN THE DUST AT THE TIME THE WOMAN WAS TO BE STONED YET HE PREACHED TO LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOUR SELF. GOD IS THE FORGIVER.

Posted by: usapdx | June 25, 2009 12:52 PM
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I think, in the Christian mindsets, the concepts of 'sin' and 'debt' are interchangeable in certain ways.

People who keep calling me a 'sinner' sure seem to think I owe them something.

Posted by: Paganplace | June 24, 2009 1:28 PM
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Correction:

Is it forgiveness of sins/trespasses or forgiveness of debts? There is a significant difference of opinion in the ranks of the historical Jesus exegetes.

continued below:

Posted by: ccnl1 | June 23, 2009 6:34 PM
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Is it forgiveness of sins/trepasses or forgiveness of debts? There is a significant difference of opinion in the ranks of the historical Jesus exegetes.

e.g.

"Hal Taussig

In Jesus Before God. The Prayer Life of the Historical Jesus. (Polebridge, 1999), Taussig develops his thesis that the Lord's Prayer is a collection of several prayer lines that were significant to the early Q community. His discussion of "Forgive us our debts" occurs on pages 89-92 and represents a good example of his argument. He concludes:

Situating this sentence prayer within its social context makes clear that it arose from certain specific situations in which Jesus found himself. It did not, within the lifetime of Jesus, belong to the Lord's Prayer, which was the product of the generations after Jesus. ... after Jesus was gone his followers in Galilee formulated a general prayer in his name, combining fragments from Jesus' own prayers with other material to create an institutionalized prayer in Jesus' name.

As the various versions of this Lord's Prayer from the second half of the first century were passed on, the meanings of the individual prayer sentences were generalized and taken out of context. The sentence prayer about forgiveness made a gradual transition from forgiving one another's debts to forgiveness of sins."

With respect to prayers in general, once again:

Put down your rosaries and prayer beads and stop worshiping cows and bowing to Mecca five times a day.

Instead work hard at your job, take care of your family and of aging parents, volunteer at a soup kitchen, donate to charities and the poor and continue to follow the Commandments of your religion or any good rules of living as gracious and good human beings.

And lets all hope there indeed is a place called Heaven!!!

Posted by: ccnl1 | June 23, 2009 6:32 PM
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As long as the 'we're in the forgiveness business' doesn't (and it does, very often) get spun around to 'We've trademarked and copyrighted forgiveness, thus can turn around and turn 'forgiveness' into an *accusation,* ...the usual insulting double-binds of "I forgive you for being such a sinner, you, person-unlike-me, you."

Forgiveness is an important part of human emotional experience, of course, where appropriate: my own faith has somewhat different view of it, not defining our lives themselves as though it were all about some tally of 'sins and judgements and absolutions' to be added up or ignored at some 'last judgement,' in the first place.

In our daily lives, we do a lot of 'unbinding' or otherwise 'letting go.' Breathing out grudges and whatnot. For this we're often accused of being 'unforgiving' where many Christians will absolve themselves of harms done and continue in the same patterns as if they were 'pure,' ...in fact, when confronted with harm they are doing, will so often point somewhere else and say, 'Oh, yeah, look over there, that's worse.'

Kind of a complex subject, however important. Too often, one hears 'prayers' directed with hostility, 'Forgive these innocent people, O, Lord, for being such terrible inhuman evil sinners,'

...which is just another way of calling people names, really. There's no *reconciliation* about it, only claims that someone who hasn't harmed you has done you some injury. false witness, if you like.

Another thing that too often gets *backwards.* Particularly in terms of claiming to people that they're so innately horrible that they need to constantly kneel and beg for 'forgiveness' to the very people who are dehumanizing them.

Care is needed in these regards. Holding onto stress is of course, unhealthy, but so is using the idea of 'forgiveness' to *create it.*

Posted by: Paganplace | June 23, 2009 2:51 PM
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I wonder if Christians/Catholics feel we should forgive Sens. Kennedy, Reid, Pelosi, Connell, McConnell for their double-dealing with property investments and national health care to the tune of tens of millions, if not more, during this period of national financial distress?

And if we should forgive them, should forgiveness mean they continue to remain unaccountable for their acts? Does forgiveness mean getting off scott free? Or should forgiveness follow justice?

Just wondering....

Posted by: Farnaz1Mansouri1 | June 23, 2009 9:23 AM
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