Turning the Tragedy of Aasiya Zubair Hassan into Action
While I would unequivocally assert that domestic violence and religion share no connection, that religion encourages harmonious relationships in the home, nonetheless, we would be naïve to ignore the fact that some men use religious justifications to spread hate in the home. Their actions stem from other factors, namely psychological problems (a superiority complex), cultural distortions of religion (withholding rights and dignity from women), and other, economic or personal factors (frustration and anger taken out at home). But this is not religion.
The apt question, therefore, is not "Is there a connection between religion and domestic violence," but rather, what are religious leaders and laypeople doing to combat these practices? Our leaders must unequivocally deny these actions, both from within the faith and the law of the land; furthermore, they must take proactive steps to tackle the issue within our communities, whatever its many causes.
In the context of Islam, certain passages of the Holy Qur'an have been misunderstood and manipulated to justify domestic violence, despite the fact that Islam's exemplar, the Prophet Muhammad, always treated his wives with total respect and dignity. Furthermore, he never used physical violence. Significantly, Muslims and prominent scholars from across diverse geographic and ideological communities are now challenging certain patriarchal interpretations of these passages. For example, Laleh Bakhtiar, the first American Muslim woman to translate the Qur'an into English (The Sublime Quran) and prominent male scholars contend that the larger message of Islam, both in the Qur'an and through the Prophet's life, absolutely condemns violence in the home and violence against women.
We must recognize that any verse (or idea) is interpreted within time and context. Those who refuse to re-examine the meanings of specific passages - whether Muslims defending physical rebuke of women or those who insist on Islam's illiberal values - have "frozen" scripture. They falsely assume that verses must always mean what they have traditionally been understood to mean. To bring this idea to the Jewish or Christian context, let us consider Exodus 31:17-18: "Now therefore kill every male among the little ones, and kill every woman that hath known man by lying with him. But all the women children, that have not known a man by lying with him, keep alive for yourselves." Does this, then, compel Christians or Jews to kill their enemies' children and take their daughters as wives? Of course not. Rather, we understand scripture according to context. Islam is no different, and Muslims are taking important stands against more violent interpretations.
In addition to these interpretive efforts, Muslims are combating domestic violence within their own communities. For example, in the NYC area, there exists a number of Muslim-led shelters and centers that seek to combat domestic violence and support victims of it: the Arab-American Family Support Center, Turning Point, and Domestic Harmony Foundation, just to name a few. In Washington DC, the Foundation for Appropriate Immediate and Temporary Help (FAITH) is a phenomenal Muslim-led organization that provides help to domestic violence victims, regardless of their faith perspective.
Furthermore, in response to the Aasiya Zubair Hassan murder specifically, Muslim leaders are offering the strongest condemnations of this abuse of Islam. They are writing articles, giving sermons, and establishing initiatives. I personally have received more than a dozen press releases from Muslim organizations denouncing Mr. Hassan's brutal actions. Aasiya, in fact, has become a catalyst for action.
Muslim women are acting. This July, 200 Muslim women leaders from around the globe will convene in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia as part of the Women's Islamic Initiative in Spirituality and Equality (WISE). One aspect of the conference will be the launch of "Jihad against Violence," a project led by scholars, activists that aims to tackle violence within Muslim communities, domestic violence and violent extremism specifically. Through sophisticated religious interpretation and academic research, emotive case studies, innovative arts performances, and concrete action items like "best practices" trainings, this project will tackle violence head on. WISE has issued the following brief statement on Aasiya's death:
"The Women's Islamic Initiative in Spirituality and Equality (WISE) condemns without reservation the brutal murder of Aasiya Zubair. Her death reminds us that in the United States alone, an average of three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends every day. Domestic violence has affected all of our communities, and it is our collective responsibility to eliminate all forms of violence against women. We pray for her children and express our deepest sympathies to Aasiya's family and friends. May God rest her soul in peace and let her death not be in vain."
On a personal note, I had met Aasiya on several occasions when she invited me to appear on her television. I cannot help but wonder, why did a well-educated architect, a business women, independent thinker, and empowered woman not have her abusive husband arrested, or why did she not speak up more loudly in her community against her husband's abuse? God alone knows what she went through, but if I had to speculate, I imagine Aasiya did what so many women throughout history, regardless of their particular faith or ethnic community, have done. Women are the selfless glue that holds families and societies together. We strongly resist breakup and disintegration, even if it means sacrificing our own self-interest. By remaining silent, Aasiya sought to avoid bringing controversy to her beloved community whose negative image she was helping to correct. It is my dream and the dream of many Americans - and the Muslim community specifically - that we will use her tragic death as a rallying cry to eliminate domestic violence. May God give us the strength to stand up against this injustice.
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Daisy Khan
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February 27, 2009; 9:11 AM ET
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Posted by: Maryann261 | March 3, 2009 12:51 AM
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Maryann, if you keep talking like this, you'll have to cancel your cruise to Pakistan.
Posted by: Bios | March 2, 2009 9:20 PM
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Reply to Spark1
You do not have to like my opinion, but I have the right to it, something you have forgotten.
You are an imbecile. Islam is a savage religion. You are probably a Muslim or a Muslim apologist.
I hold all Muslims and those who defend Muslims in complete contempt. Muslims are a vile, hideous "people." The only thing they contribute to the world is violence.
The Koran is not fit to be flushed down the toilet. The toilet is too good for it. The Koran should be destroyed.
Posted by: Maryann261 | March 2, 2009 4:35 PM
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Pseudo, does it really sound as if I'm a dreamer?
Posted by: Bios | March 2, 2009 1:59 PM
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Shahid, open your eyes.
Can you deny the link religion-beheading in this case?
We can put some blame on the individual regardless of his religion, but religion also is to blame here.
Maybe he is a criminal from an islamic point of view for some, but he is also doing the right thing from an islamic point of view for others.
How would you split these two points of view in percentage of people believing in one or the other?
Posted by: Bios | March 2, 2009 1:00 PM
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Maryann261
You have shown your meanness for which you need not be ashamed because internet hides you.
What a stinking personality you are.
Posted by: SPARK1 | March 2, 2009 9:32 AM
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The Koran is not even fit to be flushed down the toilet. The toilet is too good for it.
Posted by: Maryann261 | March 1, 2009 11:02 PM
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Aasiya Zubair Hassan's violent death has nothing to do with Islam. It is a murder committed by an individual. Islam should not be brought under discussion on this issue. We cannot blame Islam by saying what Muzzammil Hassan did was a patriarchal act permitted under Islam. He is a criminal from an Islamic point of view as well. Had he understood Islam, he should have divorced her in a decent manner if there was no hope of reconciliation.
Posted by: shahidkamal | March 1, 2009 9:14 PM
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Contemporary Islam from the inside:
From Ayaan Hirsi Ali's autobiography, "Infidel":
"Thus begins the extraordinary story of a woman born into a family of desert nomads, circumcised as a child, educated by radical imams in Kenya and Saudi Arabia, taught to believe that if she uncovered her hair, terrible tragedies would ensue. It's a story that, with a few different twists, really could have led to a wretched life and a lonely death, as her grandmother warned. But instead, Hirsi Ali escaped -- and transformed herself into an internationally renowned spokeswoman for the rights of Muslim women."
ref: Washington Post book review.
four excerpts:
p. 47 paperback issue:
"Some of the Saudi women in our neighborhood were regularly beaten by their husbands. You could hear them at night. Their screams resounded across the courtyards. "No! Please! By Allah!"
p.68:
"The Pakistanis were Muslims but they too had castes. The Untouchable girls, both Indian and Pakistani were darker skin. The others would not play with them because they were untouchable. We thought that was funny because of course they were touchable: we touched them see? but also horrifying to think of yourself as untouchable, despicable to the human race."
p.309
"Between October 2004 and May 2005, eleven Muslim girls were killed by their families in just two regions (there are 20 regions in Holland). After that, people stopped telling me I was exaggerating."
p. 347
"The kind on thinking I saw in Saudi Arabia and among the Brotherhood of Kenya and Somalia, is incompatible with human rights and liberal values. It preserves the feudal mind-set based on tribal concepts of honor and shame. It rests on self-deception, hyprocricy, and double standards. It relies on the technologial advances of the West while pretending to ignore their origin in Western thinking. This mind-set makes the transition to modernity very painful for all who practice Islam".
Posted by: CCNL | March 1, 2009 3:40 PM
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Last month a Christian man in California shot and killed his wife and all of his children in the house. The reason given was the loss of job.This act should not be connected to the Christian religion.
Posted by: SPARK1 | March 1, 2009 6:05 AM
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Domestic voilence can happen in any society. Those societies where learning, education and awareness of social issues are neglected have the highest rate of such killings. Things like honor killings are prevalent in people with little or no education. The social environment and culture around that place do play the role but not the religion.Rather many such persons are non-religious. The drug abusers and alcholics are mostly non-religious and domestic voilence in prevalent in such homes.
No religion allows beheading a wife, including Islam.
Posted by: SPARK1 | March 1, 2009 5:43 AM
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themoderate,
And what level of the cube do you occupy, below or above the Islamic level??
Posted by: CCNL | March 1, 2009 12:22 AM
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BIOS:
"If the link between domestic violence and religion in this case is ignored, it’s just a matter of time for it to happen again."
Imagine there's no heaven,
It's easy if you try,
no hell below us,
above us only sky.
No domestic violence,
Because religion died,
No hate no violence,
Brought about by religion,
'cause we all got pie eyed...
Posted by: pseudo | February 28, 2009 11:05 PM
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CCNL:
"THE SIGNIFICANT STUPIDITY OF IT ALL!!!!"
How's tricks, Sugar Cube?
Posted by: themoderate | February 28, 2009 10:33 PM
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The spousal abuse should not be quantified only by the number of men killing their wives, but also by the number of wives killing themselves. In the small village in the Middle East where I once lived two women in our neighborhood took their own lives; one by pouring kerosine on her clothes and setting herself on fire and the other by jumping into a water well. The number killed in that town by a male relative is another story for another time.
Posted by: abhab | February 28, 2009 9:44 PM
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you say there is no link between domestic violence and religion,...well, maybe not ALL religions...
(below taken from W.S.Elliot's article)
1.....This week's "On Faith" questions hit me with a flurry of questions:
1.1.....Have any non-American Muslim leaders condemned the beheading?
1.2....."Quick" after the beheading, could anybody know whether, in the murderer's mind, religion had anything to do with his crime?
1.3.....Since beheading is a solid Muslim tradition & contemporary practice, how could any Muslim leader say that a particular beheading by a Muslim had "nothing to do with religion"?
1.4.....Since the beheader was religious, and of a religion that practices beheading, how - in light of this event - could anyone ask whether there is "a connection between religion and domestic violence"?
Posted by: US-conscience | February 28, 2009 7:41 AM
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http://www.lemondrop.com/2009/02/10/8-year-old-married-off-to-47-year-old-man/
What more is there to say?
Posted by: tbarksdl | February 28, 2009 5:58 AM
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600 million Muslim women with the exception of a lucky few like the PM of Bangladesh (the female PM of Pakistan was not so lucky) suffer 24/7 under the heels of 400 million Muslim men. This is all done via the guidance of the "worst book ever written" aka the koran. Said book was generated by the hallucinations of one long dead Arab who supposedly got his instructions from a "pretty, wingie, talking, flying, fictional thingie" named Gabriel. It all makes one scream out "THE SIGNIFICANT STUPIDITY OF IT ALL!!!!
Posted by: CCNL | February 28, 2009 12:06 AM
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Interestingly, while the female Prime Minister of Bangladesh just averted what could have been a crisis of breathtaking proportions, the progressive US has yet to elect a female president. The most recent candidate was the subject of relentless sexist attacks in the media, the likes of which have yet to be seen in Bangladesh elections.
Religion and patricarchy entered the world enmeshed with one another. Wedded to nation states, they have had a disastrous history. The question is how to facilitate a divorce--worldwide.
Posted by: ivri5768 | February 27, 2009 10:38 PM
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If the link between domestic violence and religion in this case is ignored, it’s just a matter of time for it to happen again.
The extract from WISE suggests that domestic violence in American society is the factor that has really affected the muslim community. Has American society transplanted domestic violence to the muslim community?
It may be difficult to see clearly from the inside, but if the factor is seen as exterior to religion, nothing will be solved.
How come Miss Khan doesn’t see this one-sidedness?
Besides a lot of talking, what else are muslim organizations doing?
It’s fine to see that they are giving sermons & writing articles. But they should definitely cast out the individual committing the crime from their own ranks. Aggressors should get the message that their community will reject them in cases of religion-based domestic violence. Nothing has been heard regarding this.
Concerning the last paragraph, it’s always puzzling to find battered women staying with their abusers. I think it has more to do with the psychological aspects of an abusive mindset than because they are selfless or self-sacrificing. But if everything is seen under an honoured contemplation instead of seeing it under a practical and effective perspective, a solution to the problem will be elusive.
Posted by: Bios | February 27, 2009 10:00 PM
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A heck of a lot in the New Testament has been used to oppress women and is still used in that way. On top of that, it's given us that great syndrome without which we could not possibly do: the Virgin/Wh*re duality. Not only has NTsm sanctioned domestic violence, which it continues to ignore in numerous Christian countries, but it has savaged the planet. Worst of all in the virtual world is the cretin, CCNL.
Religion, with all yer ideological baggage, your bloodbath history, who needs yer?
Posted by: ivri5768 | February 27, 2009 7:31 PM
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WmarkW,
Excellent!!!!!
Posted by: CCNL | February 26, 2009 6:02 PM
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Dear Daisy Khan,
Exodus is a Jewish Legend.What written in Exodus are not Concrete and Substantial commands,but what written in Holy Quran are decisive and concrete commands.
*certain passages of the Holy Quran have been misunderstood* Is this rational comment ? Why do they misunderstand ? Can millions of muslims misunderstand ?
You say *islam/submission condemns violence against women* Please...,please.would you please write any verse(s) which condemn violence against women.
Let me remind,Violence is not only scourge as written in 4.34(absolutely,indisputable),but,Headscarf,Black Wrap,Burqa,*two women equals one man*,*women may err*(dont males err?),*women are your tilth*,*half inheritance*,*four women* etc. are violence against Women and Woman/Human Rights.
Dear Daisy Khan,
You must face the Realities.
Islam/submission is the Cult of Violence.Woman in islam is the second class(even third class) citizen.Submission enslaves women.Islam is against US Costitution and American/Contemporary Values.
Absolute Realities can not be changed by empty and fifth class polemics.Please...,please...Two plus two makes four,not two equals one.
Posted by: halozcel1 | February 26, 2009 5:54 PM
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What Muslim women should do is follow the lead of Ayaan Hirsi Ali and Wafa Sultan and stop believing in faith altogether. Faith is what one believes without reason, and so the dominant faith in a society defaults to being the prejudices of its dominant members.
There is no good idea in Islam that isn't available secularly.
Posted by: WmarkW | February 26, 2009 4:32 PM
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By having 11 wives, Mahound showed disrespect for 10 of them.
Ode to Mahound
O Islam, Islam, violent Islam,
Moha, illiterate and hallucinating,
O Islam, Islam, violent Islam,
Moha greed and lustful, womanizing,
Was he too,
O Islam, O Islam, violent Islam,
Moha, warmongering and hateful,
Was he too,
O Islam, O Islam, violent Islam,
Sunnis of hate, Shiites of late,
Even Pretty Wingie Thingies cannot
Save us from O Islam's hate.
Save us from these Islamic FEMs,
Flaws, Errors, Muck and Stench,
They ooze from the rocks of earth,
Like worms of death and wrench.
Born, Bred, and Brainwashed too,
Whatever, whatever to do?
Truth, Truth, History and Truth,
Let it Ring True, Freedom, Freedom
Free at Last and much left to do!!!
Posted by: CCNL | February 26, 2009 4:08 PM
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Reply to BIOS,
You take a cruise to Pakistan. I have better things to do with my life. There are far too many civilized lands to visit. Pakistan is a terroist nation. By all mean, you go in my place and stay there.
The Koran is garbage. The Koran is unfit for the toilet. The toilet is too good for it.